Motherhood

From Mom, With love

October 29, 2021 / 15 Comments
My daughter is getting married today, so in her honor I’m sharing a letter I wrote to her when she got engaged.

My Baby Girl,

Getting married is a time full of joy, excitement, and tons of planning. A bride (and her mom), want to make sure everything is beautiful and perfect. You and I are about to embark on this wedding planning journey, so I probably won’t have much time to sit down and share with you what’s in my heart. That is the reason for this letter.

I believe marriage is like a house that is built by two people, and both must pick the materials to put it together. The building materials you pick will determine if your house will be strong enough to sustain tornadoes and Winter storms, and flexible enough to support earthquakes and the hot summer heat.

In thirty years of marriage the house Dad and I built has experienced every season. It has been pounded many times by the heat, the high winds, and the strong storms of life. However, we have also enjoyed many days of sunshine and blue skies.

After many trials and errors, we’ve learned which ones will strengthen the foundations of our house and which ones will weaken them.

Please stay away from pride, disrespect, selfishness, unforgiveness and lack of communication. We discovered that they corrode the foundations, they weaken the walls and will eventually cause your house to collapse and crumble.

On the other hand, respect, humility, selflessness, communication, commitment and faith work perfectly together. They bind and strengthen your house in such a way that nothing will be able to destroy it. I suggest that you use them every day.

Respect– Be considerate of each other. Respect and accept each other for who you are. You might not always agree, but you can agree to disagree. Never put each other down and never yell or curse at each other.

Humility-Be humble to accept your mistakes. You are not perfect and cannot expect your husband to be perfect either. Always be willing to apologize and to forgive.

Selflessness– Think about each other and treat each other with compassion and kindness, putting each other first.

Communication-Talk about your needs, feelings, dreams, plans, as well as your frustrations and disappointments. You cannot read each other’s minds, so don’t swallow your feelings or hide your emotions.

Commitment– Commitment has nothing to do with emotions or feelings and everything to do with the vow you will make to each other before God and family, to love, support and care for each other in the good times and the bad, in sickness and health, till death do you apart…

Faith-Finally, there’s one ingredient that cements everything together to ensure that no hurricane, wind, or storm will destroy your house, and that is God. Open your hearts and invite Him to be part of your marriage. He created both of you before the foundation of the Earth just the way you are. He loves you more than words can express and he reminds you in

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for good and peace and not for bad things, to give you hope and a future.

He will help you, guide you and protect you every day of your life. He will cause your house to be strong, healthy, loving, and joyful, full of love and peace, regardless of what goes on outside its walls. Remember that He is able to do far beyond anything we can ask or imagine. And He will never, ever leave you or forsake you.

I love you Fer, and I pray that you and Blake will build a house so strong, that your love, strength and faith will bless those around you, your children, and many generations to come.

Love,

Mom

 

 

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15 Comments

  • Maria Ornelas

    May 27, 2021 at 10:31 am

    Muchas felicidades para Fer y si futuro esposo!!!! Dios Bemdiga sus vidas en esta nueva etapa. Me encanta leer tus historias Fer eres excelente!!!!!

  • Alejandra

    May 27, 2021 at 11:09 am

    Fer esta carta de tu Mami es como un antiguo baul que guarda muchos regalos. Ponelo en un lugar importante de esa casa con buenos materiales que contruiran tu y Blake y abranlo a menudo!

  • Katherine mena

    May 27, 2021 at 12:08 pm

    Felicidades a Fer! Empieza la preparación a de su boda y camino al altar. Que Dios bendiga a esa pareja y que toda su familia disfruten esta linda y romántica etapa en sus vidas! Besos y abrazos!! 😘

      • Katherine mena

        October 29, 2021 at 9:01 am

        Que bellas y sabias palabras !! Me encanto! Estoy feliz por Fernanda y Blake al igual que por toda la familia! Comparto todas las lindas emociones y buenos deseos para los novios que en el día de hoy en unas horas consagrarán sus vidas unidas en matrimonio. Que Dios bendiga a Fernanda y a Blake! ♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • Kathy Davis

    October 29, 2021 at 12:32 pm

    Such a beautiful letter to your daughter! I know she will treasure it for many years to come, and will practice the sound advice that you have given her and her new husband. I pray that they share many happy lives together.